Words for Moms

Life has changed since my kids were small. When my kids were small, many saw being a “stay at home mom” as a valid option. It didn’t mean you were lazy or unable to get job. There were also options for companionship with other stay at home moms and systems to help each other.

As we moved and time progressed, I noticed that there was more of a patronizing spirit towards “stay at home moms”. So often I got, and still get “you are so fortunate” or “it is good that you can do that” as if money reigned down from the heavens so we could do it. I also received compliments on my kids, but people don’t want to acknowledge the reason for their good behavior. Again they put it down to luck or good fortune.

Now, my daughter is a “stay at home mom”. She has career qualifications. Many women and men view her decision to stay home with hostility. “Why would a smart woman like that waste her life?”

My words of encouragement today is that you can stay at home and have a fulfilling and rewarding life. It is a choice. Unless your husband is a millionaire, it involves sacrifice and doing without things. It also involves teaching your children to do without things. The reward is great.

Yes, there are circumstances where a mom must go out to work to put basic food on the table, basic clothes on her family, and roof over their heads. Many cases that is the lot of the single or divorced mom.

We have sacrificed and also trusted God to provide so that I could be a full time mother to my kids. It was tough, we started out poor and now were comfortable. Now that they are almost all adults, it was worth it.

If you have made the choice to be a stay home mom, stand firm and confident. You and your children will be blessed for that decision.

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